We live in a fascinating time of the churches history. We are currently living in a time where we are learning to apply modern sensibilities to the truths of the gospel, and one of the issues that we are seeking to understand have to deal with our interpretations of what are families within the secular world. In the church we have ideals, and we have particular familial situation that will be the most beneficial, but I also believe that because of the ideal we miss the opportunity to simply promote loving family relationships in all situations, as families all come in different shapes and sizes. In testimony meeting a women in my ward spoke about the difficulties that have come from her own divorce and the fact that her children’s relationships have not turned out how she had hoped, but she can now recognize that God had been working through them to create these wonderful relationships.
Chieko N. Okazaki seemed to expound on this point when she said “We have faith in our prophets. They have counseled us that mothers with young children are especially needed at home. They remind us of the great needs of our children and their vulnerabilities during their growing years. The importance of the mother in building a secure, loving, stimulating environment in which children can grow up as healthy and self-reliant individuals is very important. … But not all situations are ideal. Not all women are mothers, and not all mothers have children at home. Furthermore, not all mothers can make the choice to be home with their children all of the time. Often circumstances constrain their choices. At other times, other responsibilities and opportunities require that difficult decisions be made. Women and families will be happier with these decisions if they are made using both study and faith.”